So, a year has gone by just like that. A lot has happened since I last wrote on this platform.
In May, I started a summer job running a café in the fortress island I’ve always been working in. I also had a very pleasant birthday celebration with some friends who came to surprise me at my door. They took me out for lunch and then to Hernesaari to enjoy the cool sun and sea breeze.
In the same month, I experienced muscle spasm in my back, making it painful for me to make any movements at all. It happened at work, when I was about to lift a crate of soda off the ground – bended my legs and all but still managed to get a sharp pain in my back and then it stayed for a couple of weeks. Standing, sitting, laying down…all kinds of positions I tried to be in were difficult. Thankfully, it wasn’t a slip disc but just muscle-related. It went away eventually.
The summer job went on until September like a speed train. Before I knew it, summer was over. The job this time was more demanding and very challenging because of the people I had to deal with directly now. It literally drained my energy to do any other things except to make sure I don’t get crap at work every day when I get it.
In June, Alice and Lotta threw an epic 80’s party to celebrate them turning 30 each. It was the most fun party I have ever attended, seriously. It was held in Korjaamo, an event venue and it had its own band, which consisted mostly of friends from church. Everyone dressed up well according to the theme. Amy randomly bought 3 ugly 80’s outfits and I borrowed one of them. We wore ugly blue eyeshadow makeup and big hair.
In August, I got set up to go on a blind date. It wasn’t a disastrous date, but it wasn’t exactly one that made us both excited and elated that we couldn’t wait to see each other again. We gave another try and we went out the second time a month later, due to our conflicting schedules. We began to like each other more and continued to see each other at least once a week for the next month. It was all fun and games, until a couple of reasons: 1) he was leaving. Although only for a few months, I didn’t feel this was going to go anywhere at that time. 2) I wasn’t the only person he was seeing. While technically we were not a couple, I greatly appreciate if the other person makes his intentions clear.
It felt like déjavu. It felt familiar. The ‘betrayal’ felt familiar. It wasn’t a nice feeling. I didn’t like it, but at the same time, I couldn’t hold too much grudges on him. Because it wasn’t like he had promised anything to me. But still, on some level, I felt it wasn’t entirely appropriate. I never saw him again after our last date, which was less than a week before he had to leave. Don’t know if I will in the future.
In the same month, I resumed my counselling/therapy sessions after the summer holidays (for others, not me). The whole counselling thing opened me up more and made me see some things from new perspectives. It made me trace back the experiences I had in my childhood and how incidents from that time has affected my present and the decisions I make as an adult. I am truly grateful that I had the opportunity for the couselling sessions because not only I got to talk to someone professional about the things that go on in my head, but through her, I also got advised on my walk with God. And this, contributed to my spiritual growth.
Also in the same month, I went to Riga with some of the Malaysians. It was a short trip, but a fun one nevertheless. We were half spontaneous and on one of our randomly walking around, we found KFC and had them for tea time AND dinner in the same day 😀 One thing I like about this trip was that I was very lenient about how I spent my money. We saw a nice restaurant offering brunch, which Devrin had been there for dinner before, and we just went in for brunch the next day without much thought. And then afterwards, Angeline and I went for a massage. Totally did not budget, and I felt relaxed. Although my passport almost got picked while on the way back from the massage but that’s another story.
Amy’s wedding and FMA’s international food event were also held in August. Looking back, August seems like a very busy month 😀 or a very eventful month. I was in-charge of the food department in Amy’s wedding. Most of the food were contributed by guests but it was wise that someone would be overlooking the whole food organisation. There were 98 people to feed altogether and I was an invited guest as well. At one point, I wore my maxi dress in the kitchen with an apron over it 😀
In September, I went to London for the first time in my life. I went to see Sacha who was there for work. Killing two birds with a stone, I paid a visit to my cousin too, whom I have never met before. My aunt moved to live with them a couple of years ago and I’m glad I got to see her because she’s now really old and frail and has dementia…and bed-ridden Oh well, circle of life, right? But anyhoo, I finally got myself to London. Saw all the touristy spots and objects. Had English breakfast but not fish and chips. All good, anyway. Ooh, and had lots of dim sum! The stupidiest thing was that I was gonna fly without my passport haha. Long story short, I ending up staying for another 2 days and caught Wicked, the musical 🙂
I came back to Helsinki from London at the end of September. In October, I started a new job in a restaurant. Everything in this new place is fine and dandy, although I feel change is happening and things may not be very stable for me. But then again, I’ve been feeling unstable for the last 6,5 years I’ve been in Finland. Being stable does not seem like something I am entitled to anymore.
At the end of October, my beautiful niece was born. She was named Chloe Enya Moh. Her middle name, Enya, is also her Chinese name, which means grace and elegance. I fell in love with her when I saw her first photo. And I thought the names they gave her were just as beautiful as she is. She lives in the faraway land of Australia, and I’m going to see her in a week’s time. I’m not sure how often will I get to see her, though I wish I could go and visit them every year. Well, that’s me being optimistic. But if you wish for something hard enough, you’ll get it, right? 😛
Fast forward to December, I finally got my thesis out and managed to graduate on time. Thankful for my supervisor for pulling strings for me and rushing through everything with me as well. It was over so quickly I couldn’t believe it myself. After 5 years of staying in school for various reasons, it didn’t feel real. I’m still slowly absorbing the idea that I’m free from school now.
I spent Christmas eve dining formally with some of the Malaysians. Edmund made a wonderful 7-course dinner and we dressed to the nines for this epic event. I say epic because the dinner was 8 hours long! 😀 We went out in between courses to take photos and wash some dishes we borrowed from our restaurant (that Ed and I work in) haha 😀 It was 2deg Celcius but man, it was windy. Yet, we were crazy enough to take hundreds of photos outside without our jackets and in the middle of streets.
Christmas day was spent by visiting each other’s home as though it’s Chinese New Year haha. It was really fun though. I love that we have been spending Christmases and New Year’s together for the last 3 years. Time really flew. Devrin will leave Finland in February and back to KL for a while, at least…until he gets posted again, or to another ministry. Things will change a little bit and he will be missed.
In the same month, I got to know someone quite special 🙂 Since this blog post is sort of a list of highlights of 2016 of my life, this is certainly one of them. I’m not gonna say much about it now, but I can say that I am thankful for the bad dates and horrible break-ups that when something good comes along, I know how to appreciate it haha 😀 No, honestly, those experiences made clear what I need and want and should have in my life. And I may have just found it.
But I’ll leave it to the big guy upstairs 🙂